As a highly introvert person, I always think that my shyness, sensitivity, and seriousness are wrong attitudes and will pull me down. Thus, I always struggle to keep up with people who are more vocal and funnier than me. Choosing to go home early to work, to read, or to watch a movie would not help much with my career as well as social relationships. As I have observed, it is true, I lose a lot of friends and career opportunities because I do not feel good going out with many people late at night or speak voraciously. I am always misunderstood and belittled by people around me. Nonetheless, the real purpose of this post is just that I realized something. I realized that being a quiet worker is not a bad thing. Being sensitive, serious, and dedicated are not wrong but nevertheless, they are not seen as one. They are just secondary to gregariousness, boldness, and dominance.

“We are told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy is to be sociable. We see ourselves as a nation of extroverts – which means that we’ve lost sight of who we really are.” – Susan Cain

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